To V
V,
Some things are so infinitely complex that two years later we could not possibly sit down and say,
- that part was God but…
that part was YOUR fault that part was MY fault that part was HER fault that part was HIS fault
Not only impossible, but unproductive. It would become a “she said he said “But! But! But!”" … a hurtful affair on top of what was an exceedingly hurtful affair for everyone. All of us bear scars from it. Yours are very deep and open; don’t think for a minute though that you are the only one.
We each have our own perspective on what really happened. God alone has THE TRUTH; I am sure that each of us would be surprised if we could somehow look at the situation from His eyes.
And so, my old friend, I’d like to do something - I would like to offer blanket apology to you for every single thing that I did or said, or that was done to you or said to you by my team, that you feel was hurtful in any way.
Doesn’t matter any more who’s right or wrong, V…then or now. What matters is that you are hurting so much, and that is what is wrong. It hurts the heart of God, and it hurts my heart, too. He loves you so much V… and so do I. I never stopped loving you sister. I am sorry that you have not felt loved.
When things began to fall apart, it was like a train wreck - there was no way to stop it no matter how hard each of us tried. I know that you did too. 
None of us have ever fully recovered from it… especially you. There’s no “recovery”, I don’t think, until people can come together back to the altar of God and hear, “I am sorry“.
And so that is what I offer you now, V - not that it’s much, not that it’s some panacea to make every wound disappear - but can we start here? Can we start somewhere, please, instead of staying where we’ve been for the past two years?
Love,
Kathi
January 4th, 2006 at 12:08 am
Why would it take a Christian women two years to apologise or even PRAY for a friend if you EVER read the BOOK OF JOB!
January 4th, 2006 at 12:44 pm
The book of Job really has less bearing on the situation than Second Corinthians. You don’t know how much time I’ve spent praying for V.
Her other so-called-friends left her to die the other day, you know.
Next time you visit, you’ll have to have the courtesy of sharing your name. ;)–>