Is a sociopath so very evil that he or she cannot be saved?
Modern psychology teaches that there is no hope for them. I cannot believe that is true. I have come to believe that this is not a disease; it’s a series of choices that have led to a series of demons.
I know God. God is love. God loves everyone, and sociopaths are a part of “everyone”. They can choose differently, and just like anyone else’s freedom – it begins with that single step toward God.
They are not stuck there. They are not helpless. They are not “fine” after sitting down for a while after having been busted. They are not incapable of change. They are not sub-human, soul-less monsters. Those lies come from the same pit as the lies the sociopath has been telling, and from the same pit as the lies we tell ourselves about the abuse we suffered.
The truth is that Jesus saves. The gospel is as valid for a sociopath as it is, was, and forever will be for you and me.
Yesterday I felt an emotion that I haven’t felt in a while: rage.
I’ve felt angry – often – but the rage that came yesterday was uncontrollable. I was shaking, crying, and felt like I could explode or hit someone. It’s a good thing that it was just Ken and me here.
We were taught by our abuser that we have no right to justice and especially no right to seek justice. Of course that’s utter bollocks and there is no biblical foundation for that teaching – but it has kept said abuser nice and safe for years.
I have (mostly) come to terms with the injustice done to us. It happened, it sucks, and currently, nothing is being done about it. In fact, our abuser is celebrated and elevated to places where he can freely abuse even more people. Evidence that this is happening is ignored. We have left that system of abuse and control, and trust that God will sort out the mess.
So no – I wasn’t in a rage about that. My rage came when I heard the stories of others yesterday. I’m both comforted that we are not the only ones this has happened to, and outraged. In a way I wish we WERE the only ones. This is widespread, disgusting, and MUST be stopped. Justice will be served in these situations.
One had been abused, his leaders affirmed that it was spiritual abuse, and yet those leaders allowed the abuse to go on and allowed the abuser’s judgments against this man stand unchallenged. A new friend and I held another friend as she wept, broken, questioning herself and her very sense of reality. More stories of being built up and the rug pulled out. Devaluing. Discarding. Dismissing. Gaslighting. Manipulation. Brainwashing. Story after story. Heart after heart. Broken. Shattered. Devastated.
These things should not be. And so I rage inside. My rage has become a furious intercession.
And I content myself in this: “Alexander the coppersmith did me much harm; the Lord will repay him according to his deeds.” (2 Timothy 4:14)
If you take the time to listen to the stories people tell of how they were abused – especially spiritual abuse stories – what you end up hearing is the SAME story, over and over again.
As a new friend says – “It’s textbook.”
As I say – “the devil has nothing original.”