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What does wholeness look like?

I’ve been pondering lately – what does wholeness in Christ really look like? It’s unfortunate that many people don’t find that wholeness (in and out of the context of sociopathic abuse – just in general, people don’t)… And more unfortunate that people recovering from this type of abuse often either end up back with their abuser, with another abuser, embittered …

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YOU are not a sociopath.

Sociopaths don’t target other sociopaths to be their supply. Like a leech or other parasite, they feed off the very emotions that they fake well but are incapable of feeling. If you’ve been a target – there’s good news, in spite of what someone may have tried to convince you otherwise… You are not a sociopath.

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Who are the sociopaths?

Who are the sociopaths? Where are they in our society? We tend to view them as Charles Manson types – dropped out of society, living a criminal lifestyle, building up a true cult following, unable to live a “normal” life. Yet that’s usually not the case, especially with narcissistic types. They live in our midst and, to all the people …

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Don’t look at it as being discarded

One of the hallmark symptoms of narcissistic sociopaths (NS) is “discarding”, which is also called “splitting” by some. I prefer the term splitting because I believe it’s more accurate and leads the minds of the abused to a correct understanding of what just happened. It’s actually a pattern — NS’s find their target and then lavish them with attention (for …

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Go Forward

You can’t go back. You can’t go back to the way you were before you met your abuser. Even if you could … do you want to? Don’t paint an ideal image of yourself “before” … because “before”, you were in a state of vulnerability where you made a decision to follow a person who ultimately abused you. There, I …

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