Prayer for Healing

Have you been abused by a sociopath, narcissist, or Jezebel?

You may have come here hurt, wounded, angry, beaten down, dispassionate, discouraged, so far down you’re wondering if you’ll ever get your life back… Well, I’m here to tell you – there’s one way to get your life back. His name is Jesus.

If you’ve never put your faith and trust in Him, now is the time. He will give you a brand new life. That’s no exaggeration – He really does make you completely new! If you were already a Christian, and you were abused, there’s grand news for you, too – your life was hidden in Christ all along. He’s kept it reserved for you, and you can walk in that newness of life right now. (That’s Colossians 3:3,4 by the way).

This prayer is for anyone who is willing to come to Him and lay it down.

Set aside some sacred time and space – start up a diffuser with some essential oils. Grab a journal and a favorite pen. Get a drink. Use the restroom. Turn off the ringer on the phone. Ensure quiet, with no interruptions. If that can’t happen at home, then go somewhere. I’ve done lots of healing in the woods and on the beach. I know moms who literally can’t get away, who do this sort of prayer from the bathtub.

Anyone who knows me knows that I’m not one for “repeat after me” prayers (especially for salvation). However, even Jesus gave us a model prayer – so please, take this as a model. Read through it. Find Scriptures. Look up terms that are unfamiliar to you. Build on it. Modify it. Pray it out loud. Re-write it in your journal. Record yourself praying for it, and listen to it. Do this daily for seven days – then fourteen – then thirty. At each juncture there will be places healed and new places exposed for healing. Allow the Lord deep access to heal you.

Father, I have reached the end. I can do no more. I am ready to release the past and the baggage that came with it, and I am willing to step forward into Your presence and the fullness of the Kingdom. 

Holy Spirit, I give you complete charge over my spirit; I place my spirit in charge over my soul and body. I align myself with You and with the Kingdom. 

I confess that I allowed a relationship with a person to conflict with my relationship with You. Although it was never my intention to do so, this relationship became a sort of idolatry in my life. I was codependent with the one who abused me. Today, I break free from that cycle and into complete and total dependence on and relationship with You.

I repent. I am changing my mind from believing things that are false, and I place my trust in that which is Truth, Christ Jesus. I ask that You would transform my thought processes. I break the power of obsessive thoughts and patterns, and replace them with the mind of Christ. I break this false feeling of separation from you, and replace it with intimacy and passion. 

I lay down my broken emotions at Your feet, God, and I ask that in return, You would flood me with Your healing presence.  Help me, in every moment, to trust, to feel, and to release emotion according to the way You created me. 

Father, I sever all soul ties with (name of abuser).  I forgive and release them to You, to deal with as You wish. I let go of hopes of earthly restoration or retribution. I let go of the relationship, completely and totally. It’s Yours to do with as You please. I release back to them everything that belongs to them, and I take back everything that belongs to me. (Name things that you’ve retained or need to take back – status, power, passion, joy – for me, it was specifically being “happy”.) My soul is whole. If you are in a situation where zero contact is impossible, add this: Father, I step fully into the protection of Christ Jesus as I interact with (name). Please help me to interact with them in a way that is godly and safe. If they are unable to interact on that level, then I leave my protection in Your hands. 

Father, I also sever all soul ties with people who have supported the abuser. (Name individuals, if necessary) I forgive and release them, knowing that they were just as taken in by him as I was, and for many of them, still are taken in. I release back to them anything that belongs to them, and I take back that which belongs to me. I ask that You would speak to them that which they need to know from You regarding this situation. Since I am in ongoing relationship with them, I ask that you would help me to re-forge those relationships that You would have me in, and do so in a way that is godly and good. 

Lord, help me to sort out what is real and not real, what are lies and what is truth, what is right and not right, what is true and what is not true. Send Holy Spirit as a whirlwind to sweep all of the chaff remaining from this relationship out of my life. 

I peel off all of the layers of untruth and false identity. Help me to remember my authentic Self, the way You created me to be when you knitted me together in my mother’s womb, the way You planned for me to be from the very start. Help me to make that level of authenticity my moment-by-moment reality. 

Today, I reclaim my mojo. I reclaim my power and passion. I reclaim my purpose. I reclaim my calling and destiny. I reclaim my intimacy with You. I am Your son. I am Your co-heir. I am seated in heavenly places in You. I am the person You’ve created me to be. I am alive. I am made new. 

I love You Father! I love You Jesus! I love You Holy Spirit! Amen. 


Did you pray this prayer today? I’d love to know, so that I can agree with you as you begin this journey. Was there something that you feel was left out? This model is updated continually.

God the Refuge of the Righteous (Psalm 94)

O LORD God, to whom vengeance belongs—
??O God, to whom vengeance belongs, shine forth!
??Rise up, O Judge of the earth;
??Render punishment to the proud.
??LORD, how long will the wicked,
??How long will the wicked triumph?
??They utter speech, and speak insolent things;
??All the workers of iniquity boast in themselves.
??They break in pieces Your people, O LORD,
??And afflict Your heritage.
??They slay the widow and the stranger,
??And murder the fatherless.
??Yet they say, “The LORD does not see,
??Nor does the God of Jacob understand.”
??Understand, you senseless among the people;
??And you fools, when will you be wise?
??He who planted the ear, shall He not hear?
??He who formed the eye, shall He not see?
10 ??He who instructs the nations, shall He not correct,
??He who teaches man knowledge?
11 ??The LORD knows the thoughts of man,
??That they are futile.
12 ??Blessed is the man whom You instruct, O LORD,
??And teach out of Your law,
13 ??That You may give him rest from the days of adversity,
??Until the pit is dug for the wicked.
14 ??For the LORD will not cast off His people,
??Nor will He forsake His inheritance.
15 ??But judgment will return to righteousness,
??And all the upright in heart will follow it.
16 ??Who will rise up for me against the evildoers?
??Who will stand up for me against the workers of iniquity?
17 ??Unless the LORD had been my help,
??My soul would soon have settled in silence.
18 ??If I say, “My foot slips,”
??Your mercy, O LORD, will hold me up.
19 ??In the multitude of my anxieties within me,
??Your comforts delight my soul.
20 ??Shall the throne of iniquity, which devises evil by law,
??Have fellowship with You?
21 ??They gather together against the life of the righteous,
??And condemn innocent blood.
22 ??But the LORD has been my defense,
??And my God the rock of my refuge.
23 ??He has brought on them their own iniquity,
??And shall cut them off in their own wickedness;
??The LORD our God shall cut them off.


Is a sociopath so very evil that he or she cannot be saved?

Modern psychology teaches that there is no hope for them. I cannot believe that is true. I have come to believe that this is not a disease; it’s a series of choices that have led to a series of demons.

I know God. God is love. God loves everyone, and sociopaths are a part of “everyone”. They can choose differently, and just like anyone else’s freedom – it begins with that single step toward God.

They are not stuck there. They are not helpless. They are not “fine” after sitting down for a while after having been busted. They are not incapable of change. They are not sub-human, soul-less monsters.  Those lies come from the same pit as the lies the sociopath has been telling, and from the same pit as the lies we tell ourselves about the abuse we suffered.

The truth is that Jesus saves. The gospel is as valid for a sociopath as it is, was, and forever will be for you and me.

Uncontrollable Rage

Yesterday I felt an emotion that I haven’t felt in a while: rage.

I’ve felt angry – often – but the rage that came yesterday was uncontrollable. I was shaking, crying, and felt like I could explode or hit someone. It’s a good thing that it was just Ken and me here.

We were taught by our abuser that we have no right to justice and especially no right to seek justice. Of course that’s utter bollocks and there is no biblical foundation for that teaching – but it has kept said abuser nice and safe for years.

I have (mostly) come to terms with the injustice done to us. It happened, it sucks, and currently, nothing is being done about it. In fact, our abuser is celebrated and elevated to places where he can freely abuse even more people. Evidence that this is happening is ignored. We have left that system of abuse and control, and trust that God will sort out the mess.

So no – I wasn’t in a rage about that. My rage came when I heard the stories of others yesterday. I’m both comforted that we are not the only ones this has happened to, and outraged. In a way I wish we WERE the only ones. This is widespread, disgusting, and MUST be stopped. Justice will be served in these situations.

One had been abused, his leaders affirmed that it was spiritual abuse, and yet those leaders allowed the abuse to go on and allowed the abuser’s judgments against this man stand unchallenged. A new friend and I held another friend as she wept, broken, questioning herself and her very sense of reality. More stories of being built up and the rug pulled out. Devaluing. Discarding. Dismissing. Gaslighting. Manipulation. Brainwashing. Story after story. Heart after heart. Broken. Shattered. Devastated.

These things should not be. And so I rage inside. My rage has become a furious intercession.

And I content myself in this: “Alexander the coppersmith did me much harm; the Lord will repay him according to his deeds.” (2 Timothy 4:14)